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5 Best Marriage Books For Couples To Read Together

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Think about how many books you read for your high school or college classes. Depending on the course, you may have read one, two, or three books to be successful in the class. And that's just for one class. Now think about how many books you've read for classes for your entire education spanning from high school, college, and beyond. That's a lot of books! Now, compare that with how many marriage books you've read to be successful in your relationship. If you're like most couples, you probably haven't read any. No wonder marriage can be so difficult, you haven't done the required reading! Whether you're searching for marriage books, books for newlyweds, or books for couples to read together, this article will recommend the top five to consider. 

 

What is a marriage book?

A marriage book is a book written for couples ranging from newlyweds to those who have been married for 25 years and beyond. They help couples develop better communication, better conflict resolution skills, work better as a team, and foster closer emotional and physical intimacy.

Of course I'm biased because I wrote it, but I believe the Total Marriage Refresh is one of the best marriage books for newlyweds and couples who have been together for years. It's my seminar on steroids, including more insights, more tools, and more case studies. If you enjoyed my marriage retreat and would love to take the concepts deeper, I highly recommend this book. If you've never been to one of my seminars but would love to learn the top six steps to marital satisfaction, this is the book to get. The top six steps include establishing a covenant foundation, owning your brokenness, learning to share power, developing emotional attachment, cultivating sexual fireworks, and staying in love. The book is written for the entire spectrum of couples, from the newly engaged to those needing marriage counseling. Check out the clip below on the top four reasons to read the Total Marriage Refresh.  

Four sources of the The Total Marriage Refresh 

 

1-My own marriage since 1999.

As I've shared elsewhere, my own relationship has been to the brink of divorce and back because of trauma from my wife's upbringing interacting with turbulence from mine. Combined, we developed several vicious cycles early in our relationship that severely strained our relationship. Thankfully, we reached out for help and began a multi-year journey of healing and recovery. I share a lot of my journey in the book so you know I can relate to your challenges on a very personal level. I know what it feels like to have your needs unmet, to feel hopeless, and to be filled with resentment. However, I also know what it feels like to heal, to develop hope, and to fall back in love. 

 

2-My personal research on marriage.

Being married myself and working with couples in my practice created many reasons for me to continually read marriage books and articles. Each time I would slowly process through the key concepts, reflect on their merit, modify them, and test them out. Doing so allowed me to continually refine my methods and approaches to helping couples. So, some of the ideas in the Total Marriage Refresh build upon previous concepts covered in other marriage books but with new directions and fresh insights. 

 

3-My clinical work with couples in my private practice since 2004.

Every week I sit in my counseling chair and hear couples describe what is making them unhappy in their marriage. I hear about their trauma being activated, needs going unmet, communication being blocked, and feelings of despair and hopelessness. Working with couples all these years has been a tremendous privilege, which has allowed me to continually look into the intimate workings of relationships. Doing so has helped me draw careful conclusions on what people need in marriage to have successful relationships and what can easily ruin them as well. 

 

4-My Total Marriage Refresh seminar, which I've been providing since 2012.

I've always enjoyed public speaking and helping couples so providing a marriage conference felt like the perfect combination. My first seminar was a humble class of 8 couples. However, over time it has grown to hundreds of couples meeting in hotel conference rooms several times a year in various states. The experience providing it has been invaluable because it's allowed me to continually refine my content. After each seminar I grab some food and sit for hours looking over the feedback forms to discern what everyone enjoyed and what could be improved. This ongoing refinement process has allowed me to narrow down the exact content that should be included in a marriage book.

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2-Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by Dr. John Gottman

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